Why You Should go on that Trip with Your Husband

I just got back from a trip to Australia with my husband. He was scheduled to go there on business, so I decided to join him at the end of the business trip so we could do some exploring together.

This was a really difficult decision for me to make on so many levels. I tend to be very practical and sensible, and going on this trip seemed a bit crazy. But I made the decision to go anyway and saw such amazing benefits. I want to share that with you in hopes it inspires you.

If you tune into this episode of the podcast you’ll get to hear a little bit about the things we did on our trip and how it impacted us and our marriage.

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TRANSCRIPT

Welcome to A Life Designed.
 
My name is Tina Haisman. I teach busy moms how to get everything done and still have time and energy for themselves. My passion is for helping women create more heart-to-heart connection with their husband and children so they can feel deeply fulfilled in those most important relationships.
 
The topic of today’s podcast is …
 
Why You Should Go on that Trip with Your Husband
 
But before we get started I want to let you know I have created a free video on Communication in Marriage for you. This video is for you if you have ever felt like you can’t get through to your husband. If you feel like your husband never listens to you. If you lose your cool during difficult conversations. If you’re tired of fighting with your husband.
 
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Now let’s Dive IN and talk about …  
 
Why You Should Go on that Trip with Your Husband
 
So, I just got back from Australia with my husband. He was scheduled to go there on business, so I decided to take the opportunity to meet him at the end of the trip so we could do some exploring together.
 
This was a difficult decision for me on several levels.
1.   Leaving the kids. Especially my daughter, because she had final exams the week I was gone. AND we had tickets to the Taylor Swift concert during that time.
2.   Spending that kind of money.
3.   Flying on an airplane for 20 hours. Daunting.
4.   We would not have as much time in Australia as I would ultimately like, because I had to get home to fly my daughter to a summer dance intensive in Florida. It was a short window.
5.   The fact that I would have to get back on an airplane just two days after getting home. I didn’t know how I would feel with the jetlag.
 
It all just seemed like too much. It seemed like a crazy idea. It seemed like the most sensible thing would be to stay home and hold down the fort.
 
But that’s just the problem. I’m always doing what is sensible. Usually that’s a good thing, right, sensible is good. But sometimes, my friends, we need to step out of our comfort zone and do the crazy thing.
 
My husband gets to go on a lot of pretty cool business trips, but I almost never join him. Mostly because I’m taking care of the kids and the house.
 
This time something was different. I knew deep down that I needed to go on this trip for me and for our marriage.
 
But yet, my logical brain kept trying to talk me out of it.
 
So, I thought about it. Prayed about it. Consulted with trusted friends, my coach and my counselor. And obviously, I ultimately decided to go.
 
And who says you can’t put sensibility into a bold decision? I had plenty of time to prepare so I did!
 
1.   I made the kids a few meals ahead of time and organized anything I could before I left.
2.   We rationalized spending the money on the trip because we are both celebrating our 50th birthdays this year and our 28th wedding anniversary.
3.   I prepared myself for the 20-hour flight by doing research about how to survive it.
4.   As far as not having as much time in Australia as I would like, I decided that I’d rather have one week than 0 weeks.
5.   Finally, as far as having to fly my daughter to Florida only two days after getting home from Australia, I just told myself I’ll sleep on the plane if I’m tired.
 
Going on this trip was the best decision ever! I am so glad I went and did this for myself and my marriage! I am a changed woman in so many ways as a result of it.
 
I would love to share a few meaningful highlights from my trip with you in hopes of inspiring you to do something like this for yourself, too.
 
The day I arrived in Melbourne, my husband met me in the lobby of the hotel to bring me up to our room. I thought that was so sweet. I felt seen, special, cared for and loved.
 
He had a break for a bit, so we dropped my things off and headed out to explore along the Yarra River. After he went back to his meeting, I rested for a bit then went back out exploring on my own. Then we headed out to stroll along the river and enjoy a fun dinner that evening. It was awesome.
 
The second day I went on a walking tour. It felt bold of me to do this by myself, and I am so glad I did, because it was really fun, and as it turns out, there were plenty of us on the tour alone and we had fun together.
 
I even ended up going out to lunch with one of the girls after our tour. We both loved these cute little café’s that we walked by, so, we decided to go find them and have lunch together!
 
That felt SO freeing to do. And spontaneous. That’s not like me to just make a new friend and go out to lunch. My lunch with that girl is a God story in itself. It’s no accident we met. But that’s a story for another day.
 
After Paul’s meetings that day we went out exploring the city and to a special dinner to celebrate our anniversary.
 
The next morning while he was in his meetings, I ventured out to the Queen Victoria Markets and to tour St. Paul’s Cathedral. Before heading back to the hotel I decided to stop and have lunch at a restaurant on the Yarra River. Again. A bold move to do by myself. I ordered a yummy margarita pizza and a nice glass of cabernet.
 
To my surprise, Paul texted he was available to come meet me between meetings. Which was great! But what I wasn’t expecting was that he would ride up on a lime green scooter with a lime green helmet in his business suit to join me. That was hilarious. I wish I had a picture of this for you! But I’m sure you can imagine!
 
That evening we were off to Sydney! After our flight got in, we were so hungry and exhausted that we just went down to the hotel restaurant for dinner. The restaurant was too busy to give us a table, but they had room at the bar. That turned out to be awesome. The staff was really fun and after finding out that we were celebrating our birthdays and anniversary, the restaurant manager bought our dinner for us! Welcome to Sydney! That was awesome!
 
The hotel is an exciting part of my story, too, because I splurged a little bit in order to have a view of the Opera House. It was worth every penny. In the evenings after we were done exploring, we would sit in the window of our room and enjoy the sights of the City and the bustling harbor, which were more exciting than usual because they had a light festival going on. It was awesome.
 
So, while in Sydney, we explored all of the biggest attractions in and around the City – including the Opera House, a cruise on the Sydney harbor, significant historical buildings, and great touristy spots, and even the beaches, where we saw whales and tons of dolphin surfing in the waves. It was amazing!
 
During this trip, I loved that I was the center of my husband’s attention, and he was mine. No work. No kids. No other family issues. Just us and fun. I felt special. I felt seen. I felt cherished. I felt loved.
 
But I had to step out of my comfort zone to get there. Saying yes to this trip was big for me. It was very uncomfortable. I was very nervous about so many aspects of it.
 
But look at everything I would have missed out on if I hadn’t said yes. I can’t imagine.
 
Girlfriends, I know you have so many responsibilities on your plate, but what are you missing out on by not spending some fun alone time with your husband? What are you missing out on by not putting your marriage first? We know we should, but we put it off because we are so busy with the kids.
 
And there is a very practical element to that, obviously. Our children are our responsibility.
 
But mama’s, we have to think higher than that. To what is best for our marriage. Because what is best for our marriage is what is best for our children.
 
So get out there and plan something special with your husband today! You won’t regret it!
 
If you would like to work on improving your marriage and finding time to date your husband, reach out to me for a complimentary consultation. During this consultation you will get to experience what it’s like to have the full attention of an experienced life coach listening to you in a non-judgmental, compassionate setting.
 
We will take a look at where you are in your marriage, where you want to be and come up with a plan to get you there. Just this conversation alone will give you relief from the challenges you are currently facing.
 
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Thank you! See you next time!