I have a little story and lesson for you today.
One morning there was a duck named Pete on the side of a path quacking.
A professional singer walked by. Upon hearing him she said, "How nice of you to sing me a morning song, Pete."
A few minutes later an overweight woman walked by. She said, "You're always quacking for more food, Pete. It's time you stuck to your diet."
Finally, an intellectual architect walked by. When he heard Pete, he said, "Questions, Pete, always questions. How about some answers for a change?"
Each person saw Pete through the lens of his or her own self-perception. They projected their worldview onto the duck and attributed their beliefs about themselves to him. In reality it was their own selves they were talking to. We are all speaking only to our own self.
The world we see is a projection of our thoughts. When we believe our world is kind to us, we are being kind to ourselves. That means if we are perceiving our world is not being kind to us, we are not being kind to ourselves.
Learning how to be kind to ourselves will solve a lot of our problems in life. This is what I teach my clients. And something I have to continually work on in myself.
Story courtesy of Alan Cohen, photo taken by me! That's a real butterfly!