Lions, Tigers, Bears and Other Creepy Things ... How They Helped Me Put Fun Back Into My Marriage

Ladies, your husband needs you to watch football with him sometimes ... or go skiing ... or golfing. This is according to Willard Harley, author of His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair Proof Marriage.

Harley says one of the top 10 needs of a man is to have a recreational partner in his wife – someone to do something with. He explains that men prefer to bond by interacting side-by-side with their spouse. That is different than how women prefer to interact -- we prefer face-to-face interactions. 

For example, in my marriage I have sometimes found myself camping without indoor plumbing, fishing with yucky bait, or sporting some sexy eye and ear protection at the shooting range when I would really rather be curled up reading a good book or relaxing at the spa. 

I have learned to do these things with my spouse because it makes him feel loved and it helps us bond through a shared activity. I can literally see the joy on his face when he is doing things that he loves! Sometimes we have to put our own comfort aside because it is in the best interest of the relationship.

Doing something your husband likes is a selfless act of love. You can show your husband you care about him by showing some interest in his hobbies. He may even return the favor and spend the day doing what you want to do!