I was talking to a client the other day when she started telling me a story about her experience at one of her many volunteer opportunities. As soon as she arrived for her shift, one of the other volunteers notified everyone else that the leader was here and they should follow her. She wasn’t officially the leader, but when she showed up to volunteer, the very best in her came out. She shined bright.
As she told me that story she shined brightly too. Her whole face lit up and her body language was excited. My friends, this is a pure sign that you are living in your God-given gifts. What a beautiful place to be.
In this episode of the podcast I am going to teach you how to live from this place more often. I hope you’ll join me!
For more inspiration, join me in my private A Life Designed community on Facebook.
Also, I have created a free Cultivating Healthy Communication in Marriage Masterclass for you! This class is for you if you want to stop fighting with your husband and feel like you are on the same team.
Welcome to A Life Designed.
My name is Tina Haisman. I teach busy moms how to get everything done and still have time and energy for themselves. My passion is for helping women create more heart-to-heart connection with their husband and children so they can feel deeply fulfilled in those most important relationships.
The topic of today’s podcast is How to Fall in Love with Your Life
But before we get started I want to let you know I have a FREE private group on Facebook where you can come to get inspiration for your life. It’s called A Life Designed. It’s actually a happy place on facebook. I hope you’ll join us!
Also, I have created a free Communication in Marriage MasterClass for you. This class is for you if you have ever felt like you can’t get through to your husband. If you feel like your husband never listens to you. If you lose your cool during difficult conversations. If you’re tired of fighting with your husband.
In just 30 minutes, this class will help you lay the foundation for healthy communication in marriage and teach you how to handle difficult conversations so you can feel more connected and like you’re on the same team as your husband. Visit the link in the show notes to access it.
Now let’s Dive IN and talk about How to Fall in Love with Your Life
Let’s start with a couple of questions today. Do you love your life?
Do you wake up in the morning excited for the day ahead or are you filled with dread?
Are you thriving in your days or are you just surviving your days?
Are you living your best life or are you feeling a bit uninspired as a mother and a wife?
There was a time in my life that I realized I wasn’t living my best life. I’ve shared a couple of my stories here on the podcast before.
Even though I had everything I ever wanted – a healthy family and beautiful home – I wasn’t feeling happy or fulfilled or at peace in my life. I didn’t fully realize it either, until it smacked me in the face one day.
You might have heard me talk about this before. But my response when I realized I was living in survival mode was a prayer for help. God sent me help, but not in the way I would have imagined.
Instead of sending me some help with the housework and maybe a sitter for the kids or an assistant for my business or even on a lavish vacation, he sent me a writing assignment.
Work. Can you believe that guy?
But, of course, he knows best. So, I took the writing assignment. And it changed the trajectory of my life forever.
I was asked to write an article for a parenting magazine about how moms can get everything done that they need to, but still have time and energy for themselves.
As I wrote that article, I interviewed some life coaches for answers. Needless to say, I loved what the life coaches had to say so much that I hired one!
And that is how I learned to go from surviving to thriving in life.
My life coach taught me that I am in charge of my own happiness. And that I have to go get it. That happiness isn’t just going to come to me. Wow. I didn’t know that. I totally thought it would.
I’d never had to go out intentionally creating my happiness before. It always just seemed to be there. But things were different now.
I learned 3 steps to take in order to fall in love with my life. And I’d like to share them with you today in case your life could use some tweaking, too.
I’m going to list them briefly here, then go into detail after that.
1. We have to get to know ourselves better.
2. We have to make room in our lives for the things we love.
3. We need to be intentional with how we spend our time each and every day.
So, let’s talk about each area so you can get some ideas of what to do for yourself.
Number 1. Getting to know yourself better means looking for things that light you up. Looking for things that bring you happiness, joy and energy.
Looking for what your God-given gifts are and then using them in your life.
As moms we often put our desires on the back burner while we take care of our families, but this leads to burnout, exhaustion and unhappiness.
We need to take the time to reconnect with ourselves and things that make us uniquely us.
Explore some basic questions like, what is your favorite color? What is your favorite food? What do you like to do when you have free time?
What makes you feel good? What is fun? What are you really good at? What gifts do you think God gave you and how do you think he wants you to use them?
Answering these questions and implementing what we learn into our lives shifts our energy and brings us peace and joy.
For me this exploration led to much more happiness in life and eventually a rewarding, soul-filling career change.
The second step in learning how to create a life you love is making room for the things you love. This means some things have to go. Do you have any commitments or relationships that are draining your energy?
Look at your calendar at all of the activities that you do on a daily and weekly and monthly basis and look the people you interact with on a regular basis.
Note if those activities and people make you feel energized or depleted.
If something is depleting you, it needs to go. Somehow, Some way. We all have things in our lives that we hold onto, because we believe we need to for some reason. We might really believe we have to keep this thing or person in our lives, but do we?
You know how they say there is a time and a place. If something is draining your energy right now, it may not be the time for it. If you find it difficult to say no or let go of things, this is an area where coaching can really help you, by the way.
In the meantime, a careful, prayerful analysis can show us what we no longer need to hold on to and allow us to lovingly release it so we can make space for what would actually make us happy.
We will never be our best self while holding on to activities and relationships that drain our energy. In the wise words of Elsa the snow queen, let it go!
The third phase of falling in love with our lives is designing our days the way we want them to be.
Believe it or not, we do not work for time. Time works for us.
Remember those questions we answered in step one about what you love to do. What makes you happy. … This is the part where you implement it.
What are the things you wrote down? What do you love to do that make you feel whole, happy and complete?
Traveling, painting, gardening, journaling, praying, meditating, exercising, resting, spending quality time with your children, girls night out with your friends, bubble baths … dates with your hubby …
Whatever it is, schedule fun and enjoyment into every day.
I don’t know if you’re like me, but I tend to have a mindset of work first, play later. But that didn’t work for me, because all I ever did was work.
I didn’t leave much time for things I actually enjoyed doing. I would wake up in the morning without a real sense of being excited about the day ahead.
In fact, I was burnt out. Learning to prioritize fun and enjoyment was transformational in all areas of my life. And it is for my clients, too.
Knowing you have something good scheduled for each day is inspiring and fun and energizing!
It will make you feel so much happier. And it will make those difficult tasks or obligations more bearable, because you know there is fun right around the corner.
So, those are three powerful steps you can take to create a life that you love.
I fully believe that we are in charge of our happiness and that we need to be intentional in creating it. It is my deepest honor to help my clients do this work for themselves.
If you are tired of just surviving in life and are ready to thrive, reach out to me for a complimentary consultation so we can come up with a plan for you.
In the meantime. Remember! I have created a free Marriage Communication MasterClass for you. Just click on the link in the show notes to access it.
Don’t forget to join the Life Designed Community on Facebook!
Thank you! See you next week!