How to Discover Your Purpose

How would you like to feel happier and more joyful?

Would you like to feel more fulfilled?

Would you like to have more energy?

How about some more fun?

If you answered yes to these questions, I’ve got your solution! No, it’s not a magic pill! Sorry! It’s way more exciting than that — it’s your life purpose that is calling you and waiting for you to step into it!

People who are living in alignment with their life purpose, are happier, more intentional and more content.

In this week’s podcast I’ll teach you how to find your purpose and start living it!

For more inspiration, join me in my private A Life Designed community on Facebook.
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Also, I have created a free Marriage Communication Masterclass for you! This class is for you if you want to stop fighting with your husband and feel like you are on the same team. 

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Welcome to A Life Designed.
 
My name is Tina Haisman. I teach busy moms how to get everything done and still have time and energy for themselves. My passion is for helping women create more heart-to-heart connection with their husband and children so they can feel deeply fulfilled in those most important relationships.
 
The topic of today’s podcast is How to Discover Your Life Purpose
 
But before we get started I want to let you know I have created a free Communication in Marriage MasterClass for you. This class is for you if you have ever felt like you can’t get through to your husband. If you feel like your husband never listens to you. If you lose your cool during difficult conversations. If you’re tired of fighting with your husband.
 
In just 30 minutes, this class will help you lay the foundation for healthy communication in marriage and teach you how to handle difficult conversations so you can feel more connected and like you’re on the same team as your husband. Visit the link in the show notes to access it.
 
Also, I have a FREE private group on Facebook where you can come to get inspiration for your life. It’s called A Life Designed. It’s actually a happy place on facebook. I hope you’ll join us!
 
Now let’s Dive IN and talk about How to Discover Your Life Purpose
 
In 2010, my husband and I experienced a marriage crisis that changed the trajectory of my life so many of the best ways possible.
 
One of the ways was is that helped me find my life purpose.
 
I learned so much through the experience that I felt called by God to make a major career change and become certified as a life coach so I could teach moms what I had learned about this crazy journey we call motherhood and marriage.
 
And that’s what I’ve been doing for the past 11 years.
 
Through public speaking and one-on-one coaching, I help women who want to feel happier in their role as wife and mother. And who want to live with purpose and passion.
 
But don’t worry. We don’t have to go through a crisis to find our purpose in life. Who knows….maybe living your purpose could help you avoid a crisis.
 
That’s what I want to talk with you about today.
 
Let’s start off with a definition of life purpose.
 
Well, the way I have learned it is that our purpose is what we are here to do while we are alive on earth. It’s like an overall goal or theme for your life.
 
When you are living in alignment with your purpose, you will feel more fulfilled in your life. You will be more focused. You will know what to say yes to and what to say no to.
 
You will feel happier and more joy-filled, because you will know that you are living your purpose.
 
You will have more energy and fun!
 
And you will feel so fulfilled, because you know that you are making the world a better place!
 
God gives each one of us unique gifts and talents and callings to serve his greater purpose. We all have a role in it.
 
Romans 12:6-8 says 6 We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us. If your gift is prophesying, then prophesy in accordance with your[a] faith; 7 if it is serving, then serve; if it is teaching, then teach; 8 if it is to encourage, then give encouragement; if it is giving, then give generously; if it is to lead,[b] do it diligently; if it is to show mercy, do it cheerfully. 
There are other scriptures, as well. This is just the one I chose for today.
 
So, I’m curious if you’ve ever stopped to think about what you are here to do?
 
A mentor's life purpose is “to be an example of what is possible.” She lets this drive her to keep trying to grow personally and professionally.
 
One of my clients realized her life purpose is "to be an advocate.” She blew me away with how quickly she took action on that, too. She signed up to be a mentor for women in need in her community … and started looking at how she could be an advocate in her marriage and family, as well.
 
Another client’s purpose is "to bring more love into the world." She incorporates this both at home and at work. When she feels challenged by any situation, she asks herself, “What would love do?”
 
My purpose is to love serve and teach. To me that means, I always want to be giving love to everyone around me. I want to be of service to the people around me and I want to teach the people around me about love. Specifically in motherhood, marriage and faith.
 
And so, I have been blessed to find a career that very directly allows me to do that with life coaching and public speaking, right.
 
But even if I were in a different career, say as a bank teller. I bet I could still find a way to love, serve and teach in that role.
 
So, even if you don’t think you’re in your ideal role, you can still live your purpose. And, in fact, we should intentionally live our purpose in any role we have in life in order to move ourselves in the direction of our dreams.
 
So many people discount their current role, because they think it’s not making a big enough impact in the world. But I’d challenge you. We can all live our purpose in the exact spot we are in. Even if the spot you are in does not thrill you.
 
If I didn’t have a career – you can better believe I’d still be loving, serving and teaching as a mother and wife, right?
 
Do you see what I mean. Whether I’m a life coach, a bank teller or a stay at home mom, I’m still loving, serving and teaching.
 
So, how do you know what your purpose is? You go within and find it!
 
I think a great first step is to ask God for some guidance.
 
Then, get out some pen and paper, because we are going to do some thinking.
 
Don’t skip the pen and paper part, friends. It’s really that important. Writing will slow you down enough to get out of your head. There’s a lot of scientific research behind this, but I also think it helps you hear God better.
 
So, we are going to make a few lists to help you brainstorm…six to be exact.
 

1. Write you love doing.
2. What you are passionate about.
3. What you are really good at.
4. What makes you excited!
5. What your priorities are.
6. What you want to spend your time doing.

 
Then look at these lists for themes that could turn into your life’s purpose.
 
See. The thing is. Your life purpose is within you. You don’t have to go outside of you searching for it, you just need to go within.
 
Now, let me warn you, when you are living in alignment with your purpose, it doesn’t mean everything is going to be effortless. That all of your problems will go away. Certainly not. But it gives meaning to your life and your struggle. And direction, too. You know to just keep following your purpose.
 
I have a recent example of when I was caught not living in alignment with my purpose!
 
Yeah, I was talking to my coach the other day and sharing some business mindset struggles with her. I was having thoughts that were producing feelings of worry and fear.
She showed me that those negative thoughts and feelings were actually keeping me from doing the work necessary to love, serve and teach my clients.
 
That was a wow moment! Who would have thought that negative thinking could keep me from living in alignment with my purpose, but it literally was.
 
I would also like to encourage you by sharing that we can still be living in alignment with our purpose when life seems challenging or hard.
 
For instance, I have a client whose purpose is to be a loving mother and wife. She was struggling recently because her oldest daughter went off to college. This changes the family dynamic drastically, and now she has more worry about her daughter living in a college town.
 
And, so my client will most certainly need to do the self-care necessary to take care of herself in mind, body and spirit during this time, but she can still live according to her purpose.
 
She can still be a loving mom from afar for the daughter that went to school, and there are two more children at home to continue to nurture. Things will certainly look different now with one child out of the nest.
 
So I would coach her on what this new dynamic looks like – both with her relationship with her daughter in college as well as for the two still at home. Plus, her husband.
 
The benefit of being intentional about doing this is BECAUSE it gives her purpose. She is not lost – even with one child in another town. Finding new ways to live her purpose will feel very empowering and purposeful, and it will help ease the transition while she gets used to it.
 
See what I mean! So, our purpose can come with us through all of life’s ups and downs. But it might shift or change in how it looks.
 
So, once you come up with your purpose, the challenge is to live it every day. What could you do today to be living your purpose.
 
I know this concept is easier said than done, and it really helps to have someone to walk you through. I’d love to be that gal for you.
 
If you could use a little help with this, reach out to me. I can help you.
 
In the meantime. Remember! I have created a free Marriage Communication MasterClass for you. Just click on the link in the show notes to access it.
 
Don’t forget to join the Life Designed Community on Facebook!
 
Thank you! See you next week!