Sometimes life gets the better of us and we find ourselves feeling down in the dumps.
Sometimes we know what’s wrong, but other times we’re not sure. But one thing we know for sure — we just want to feel better.
But what do we do? How do we do it?
In this episode of the podcast I am going to teach you how. I’m going to give you some quick fixes that you can do anywhere, anytime. AND I am going to teach you a more substantial fix that is completely transformational.
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Welcome to A Life Designed.
My name is Tina Haisman. I teach busy moms how to get everything done and still have time and energy for themselves. My passion is for helping women create more heart-to-heart connection with their husband and children so they can feel deeply fulfilled in those most important relationships.
The topic of today’s podcast is …
How to Boost Your Mood
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Now let’s Dive IN and talk about how …
How to Boost Your Mood
So. It’s December in Chicago. The skies are cloudy and grey. It’s cold outside.
There are other stressors going on as well. Christmas is coming, so many of us are a little extra busy getting ready and spending all the money on the gifts.
Then there might be family situations or disagreements that cause stress.
And so some of us are bound to feel down from time-to-time.
There’s value in that. In recognizing what is going on for us. And so we need to visit that. But we don’t want to stay there forever. So, we need to know how to get ourselves out of the dumps.
I’ve got good news for you. There are lots of quick little things you can do:
I could go on! But I think you get the point. There are so many quick things you can do to turn your mood around in a moment.
But what if your mood has been low for more than a moment? What if you are going through a difficult season?
I’d like to share a more transformative process with you.
Don’t worry it’s easy. You can do it from anywhere. And it takes less than five minutes.
The key is in understanding that our thoughts create our feelings.
So if we are feeling sad then we want to search our minds to find the thought that is causing us to feel sad.
So here’s what you do.
Once you notice that you are feeling down. Grab pen and your journal and start to write down your thoughts. Ask yourself, “What is on my mind right now?” Or “What am I thinking right now that is causing me to feel sad?”
Then write down everything that comes to your mind. Even if random thoughts pop in that you don’t think have anything to do with why you feel sad, write them down. Write down everything.
I want you to think of this as if you were turning your purse upside down and dumping everything out of it.
When you feel like you’ve written everything in your head down, take a look at the list. And find the one thought out of all of the thoughts that is bothering you the most.
Get curious about this thought. Ask yourself, “Why am I thinking this?” “Is this true? Like proven in a court of law true?” “What can I learn from this?” Here’s one of my favorite things to ask myself: “Is this thought serving me?”
To that question is usually, “No. It is not serving me.”
Then ask yourself, “What can I think about this that would serve me?” This is so you can re-focus your brain on something more positive and productive.
How about a personal story to illustrate.
As many of you know I do a bit of public speaking to moms groups about motherhood and marriage. Many times I give the attendees a survey at the end of my talk so I can see if my message is landing with them.
Most of the time all of the responses come back positive. But there is occasionally that one person who gives me a lower rating and says something that hurts me. And tanks my mood.
Once a mom said that I offended her with something I said. I won’t go into details here…because it’ll take too long, but that comment really hurt.
I went home from that speaking engagement feeling like a failure. 99 positive reviews. One negative review. I helped 99 women, but something I said offended one. And my brain can’t let go of that.
My brain was telling me that I am a total failure. And so I beat myself up. I ruminate about it in my mind. I get a headache and a stomach ache over it. My mood is terrible. This pulls me out of the present moment of my life with my family. I don’t want to continue feeling this way.
And I want to get on with my day, because there is plenty more to do. And I don’t want to spend the rest of my day being down about this.
So, let’s apply the questions I taught you earlier to this scenario and see how it helps improve my mood.
First Question, “Why am I thinking this?” The answer is because I care about my job and helping people. I want to be good at what I do.
“Is what she said true? What she said is true, I did say the words, but I know my intent was pure and not to offend.
“What can I learn from this?” I learned that I can describe how I am feeling when I am speaking about a situation without putting a label on it. That way everyone who hears me will relate and not be offended.
“Is this thought serving me?” At this point, I can honestly say, not anymore. I got the learning out of it, and now I need to move on.
So finally, “What can I think about this that would serve me?” I can be grateful for the lesson I learned and remember that I helped 99 people and that the next time I give that talk, I am certain my words will not offend.
Ahhhh…do you see how much better that feels?
You can use this tool to help you with any thoughts that are taking your mood – whether they are about a relationship, your career, finances, health … or anything.
I’d say this falls under the guidelines to take our thoughts captive from 2 Corinthians 10:5 which says, “We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.”
I hope this helps!
But I know this is easier said than done, so if you would like to work on this with a coach, reach out to me. We can hop on the phone for a complimentary consultation where we will talk about what is going wrong in your marriage, how you want it to be, and then we’ll come up with an action plan to get you there.
Thank you so much for listening in. Please let me know if you have any specific questions.
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Thank you! See you next week!