Many of us have a voice inside our head that says, "You're not worthy." This little voice is constantly pointing out our failures and shortcomings.
This is made worse when the people in front of us tell us we are not worthy.
Looking back at my life, my parents divorce when I was 10 was a big, huge thing that told me I was not worthy. Nobody said that to me, but that is the message a child receives when his parents split. It just is.
This voice was reinforced throughout my life by myself and others around me. When I went through my marriage crisis, I felt rejection and that I was not a good enough wife. I also had a friend who used to tell me I wasn't a good friend. She ended our friendship in our late 30's by saying I was a bad friend.
The crazy thing is I believed the lie that I was not good enough, and this affected all of my relationships. ALL of them -- friend, wife, mother, daughter, sister, neighbor. It filled me with doubts about my value as a person. I let this lie define my value.
It has taken more more years than I care to admit to figure this out.
I have hired more than one counselor to help me with this problem over the years, but it wasn't until I started working with my life coach about 6 years ago that I was able to sort through it all and understand more of what was going on. Lies! I was totally giving away my personal power by believing them.
So, I write this for you. If you are stuck believing the lie that you are not good enough. Stop right here, right now. You are worthy! You are amazing! I know you will not go from believing you are unworthy to believing you are worthy overnight -- it is a process, but it is one worth doing.
I would recommend reading Brene' Brown's Daring Greatly if this topic is of interest to you.