If you are talking with someone who has a different opinion than you do on an issue. Rule Number 1 is that you should not criticize, complain or condemn them for their opinion. Doing so puts them on the defensive, drives them further from seeing your point of view and is counter productive and disrespectful. This principle is straight from Dale Carnegie.
We should all be applying this principle to every relationship in our lives -- with our spouses, children, family members, friends, neighbors and even strangers.
Mastering this principle is two-fold:.
# 1. Do not criticize others for their opinions.
#2. Recognize when you are criticized and be the bigger person. Respectfully let the other person know their criticisms are out of line. Attempt to continue the conversation more respectfully. If they can't seem to handle it, end the conversation.
“Instead of condemning people, let’s try to understand them. Let’s try to figure out why they do what they do. That’s a lot more profitable and intriguing than criticism; and it breeds sympathy, tolerance and kindness.” Yes, please!
Hope this helps!