When I speak on marriage, I often try to encourage women to take the lead on improving their marriage relationship. But I often hear a common complaint about this theory — “It’s not fair.”
I get it. I’ve been there. I know how overwhelmed many of us moms are. And so often, it feels like we can’t take on one more thing. Why should we have to be the one’s to “work” on our marriage.
In today’s podcast, I’d like to show you what to do when you are feeling like it’s not fair in your relationship. I hope this helps!
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You Didn’t Go to School for This
We go to school from kindergarten through 12th grade to learn how to read and write and add and subtract. All so we can have a successful career. But where do we get educated on how to have successful relationships? After all, relationships are what life is really about, right? A marriage coach will teach you relationships skills you need to help your marriage succeed.
Marriage Skills are Counterintuitive
It’s likely that what you have been doing in your marriage isn’t working. That’s because marriage skills are counterintuitive. If your efforts are not making you happy or bringing your spouse closer to you, you need support. A coach can help you see what needs to change and hold you accountable to making those changes.
You’re in a Crisis Situation
If your marriage is stressed, chances are you are experiencing a lot of fear and anxiety. You want to do the right things, but you aren’t sure what that is. Your relationship seems like a rollercoaster – fine one minute, chaotic the next. A coach can show you which behaviors are damaging the relationship and teach you how to bring in more positive behaviors that will set you on the path to healing.
Coaching is More Action-Oriented Than Counseling
You need someone who has been there to guide you as you repair your marriage. A marriage coach has wisdom from her own life experience as well as her training that will help you figure how to heal your marriage. Where counseling focuses on listening, coaching focuses on taking action to fix the problems.
Hiring a Coach is a Good Investment!
Every year, people spend thousands of dollars to make themselves look and feel better – gym memberships, skincare regimens, Botox and laser treatments – just to name a few. Why shouldn’t you invest in your marriage? It’s the most important relationship in your life. Marriage coaching can bring you greater happiness and – even better – prevent divorce! The average divorce costs between $15,000 and $20,000. Marriage coaching is far less expensive, and much more valuable.
Your Friends and Family Are Worn Out
Many of my clients come to me because they have worn out their friends and family with their marriage troubles. It’s so hard, because everyone has an opinion on what you should do and say. The problem is they aren’t marriage experts, and they aren’t “in” your marriage. A coach doesn’t have a hidden agenda, and she doesn’t take sides. You can rely on your coach to support you fully.